Being Judgemental

Hello everyone,

First of all, I am incredibly sorry for being out for so long. It was all due to my health issues that needed to be taken care of, From now on, I will be regular, and I will post once a week regularly.

I am now starting the main topic. I have observed these days we all are very quick in judging others, due to which we begin pinpointing others without thinking twice of their circumstances or problems. We don’t even give the benefit of the doubt to others. We don’t ponder over what we find objectionable in someone’s act. It might be due to any pressure, or the circumstances might have unwound so that the subject person acted a certain way. No, we judge the other person in a second and start giving our opinions without paying heed to their emotions, problems and circumstances. Nobody is ready to listen to others; everyone wants to speak and give lectures according to their perspective. We don’t even listen to other’s perspectives while giving ours.

Hence, increase in the ratio of suicide. Many people have come to me and shared themselves, sometimes for guidance and sometimes to speak their hearts out. And the single complaint they had, for the people surrounding them, was nobody listened and understood them. Parents aren’t listening to kids; kids aren’t listening to parents, spouses aren’t listening to each other, siblings aren’t listening to each other, friends aren’t listening to each other. Nobody is listening to anybody. These are the fundamental relations that we always look up to; If they also don’t try to understand us and make us comfortable to talk our hearts out, then to whom we will lookup?

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Many people use social media platforms for guidance and sharing, but I also noticed the same everyone just judges. We need to correct this social evil, which has made everyone’s life so suffocated that most people end up suiciding. People have become introverted and avoid socializing because of this issue. Everyone has their own set of problems, and they have their battles. Sometimes, a person only wants to speak their heart out, but no, we are not ready to keep our mouths shut and let them speak; which won’t solve the problem but at least after pouring they will be able to start afresh; which sometimes help them in completely solving their issues. I have seen people sharing their medical emergency on social media and asking for help instead of talking to any family member or friend and go to the doctor right away. Why is it so? Only because of lack of communication. It is due to mistrust and judgemental behavior everyone hides.

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All we need is to grow our stamina of listening more and speaking less so that others can confide in us. It is the main reason for significant issues everyone faces. By resolving this attitude together, we can make this world a better place to live and more accessible for others to survive.

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A Personal Note:

If you know some other social issues and want them addressed, let me know I will discuss them. And suppose you are facing any problems and want them to discuss. In that case, you can personally message me by your ID or message me anonymously. I will share the solution in my post without mentioning your name in both cases so that other people in the same problem may get an advantage. I am not a professional; I am just a sane individual who is ready to listen and advise accordingly, and even if you want to pour your heart out, I am just a message away.

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Published by Zakia Attia

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11 thoughts on “Being Judgemental

  1. Hi, A well thought out piece. I think Anti-social media and screen time instead of life-time and very diminished personal interactions has a lot to do with peoples self absorbed lives nowadays. I also personally don’t feel the need to apologise for not posting for a bit, real life is more (or should be) more important to all of us than blogging, whether it be health or just having a break to soak up life. I hope you are now on the mend ❤️‍🩹 Look after yourself 🙂

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  2. Really touched my soul, this is the core problem of dipression and anxiety. you highlighted it beautilfully.
    I must say you are the best advisor and mentor I have had in my life. I would surely love to speak my heart to you, it always makes me so relieved and satisfied.

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  3. Vey nice article. It shows the emapthy writer has towards the fellow human being as whole and specifically directly related ones. May you have good and healthy life. Need not to apologise for delay in blog. 🙂

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