6 Tips for a Strong Husband-Wife Relationship

In my last post, I discussed the importance of the husband-wife relationship, and I said couples should strengthen their bond and work on their relationship first before going further next step. In this post, I will discuss the tips that may help strengthen the bond between them.

Suppose we see the recent stats of marriages and divorces. In that case, we will find out the graph of divorce is much higher than the marriage and the reason behind it is the incompatibility between spouses which arises due to different reasons. Today, I will discuss a few tips to work a relationship better and grow it more substantial.

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  • Respect Each other

The first and the most important thing is always to respect your spouse. The basis of every relation in this world is respect, and the relationship can’t even move a step forward if the element of care is missing. Even in your hard times or when you quarrel, never disrespect each other, it will mend the hearts, and your relationship will become stronger after that period.

  • Never Make Comparison

Never compare your partners with others; it will make your partner insecure and diminish your relationship badly. Every relationship has its flaws and issues. No one is perfect. We can’t judge others chemistry just by a few Instagram pics and Facebook stories expressing their love. No one knows what is going on behind the scenes. You will never know their struggles in one pic or story, so never fantasize about others. As the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover. It will only ruin your relationship.

  • Communication & Confession

Always communicate with your partner, share as much as you can. It will help to understand each other. If you have any complaints, share them with your partner instead of bitching around. It will help your spouse understand your issues, your likes and dislikes, and ultimately they will try to fix it, making you fall in love with them all over again. Share your routines, what did you do the whole day, whom you met, confess your love. The more you communicate, the more comfortable you will be with each other, and your bond will grow stronger.

  • Ego Management

Never keep your ego first with your partner. The partnership means equality, and the husband-wife relationship is like one body with two hearts. So keeping the ego in between will fall apart the body. If there is an issue between the partners, both should come forward, talk it out and resolve it instead of giving a silent treatment and nurturing their egos. There shouldn’t be any third party between husband and wife, not even their ego. It will only damage their relationship.

  • Handling Disagreement

It’s OK if both partners don’t agree on different matters, and it’s natural. Instead of quarrelling and objecting, learn to respect your spouse’s opinion. Never force your views and wishes on your spouse; instead, try to work it out with different perspectives. You live according to your personal choices and let your partner enjoy their life according to their choices. This way, both partners will explore new in life every day as both will have two ways to go collectively.

  • Give Space to Each Other

It’s a saying, ‘If you want to lose something, hold it tightly.’

Marriage doesn’t mean being together all the time. It means to be there for each other whenever needed. So constantly give space to each other. Let your partner go out and enjoy with their friends and family alone, and you do the same. Take a break from each other once in a while. This break will teach the importance of each other in life. The more you both miss each other, the more you will come closer. Some healthy leaves are always good for a relationship, and it nurtures the bond stronger.

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I still have a lot to say and a lot of tips, and I will write about it more some other time. For the time being, I think the length of the post is enough.

If you have some more tips, I would love to know them too. 😊

Blogger Attia

Favorite Lines from my Poetry

Some Checks me,

Some Ignores me,

Some likes me,

Some envies me,

Thou they never get me,

People I meet!

Poetry by Zakia

Sunshine Blogger Award

Hello friends!! My name is Zakia (blogger & poetess), I run the blog with my sister Attia as co-blogger, and I’m thankful to my sweet reader Ebar for nominating me in the Sunshine Blogger award! I frequently visit her blog because I find her thinking out of the box creatively. My votes are high for Ebar based on her approach and flavored words. I believe this award nomination is not just an award for recognition but an excellent approach to know other tremendous bloggers! 

The RULES are as follows:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and links back to their blog.
  2. Answer the 11 questions sent by the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 11 new bloggers to receive the award and write them 11 further questions.
  4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or your blog

Let’s move to answer Ebar’s Questions:

How are you, really?

I was enjoying the feeling of nomination for the award. True, I never thought of it!

What was the best age of your life?

The age between 9 to 13 years might be because our family had many leisure trips during this span, and it was a quality time of our family together.

What is your best method of relaxation?

I believe a quality laugh relaxes my mind and therefore I watch a comedy with a cup of tea. A tried and tested method to dodge the reason from irrelevant thoughts! Heh…

If you have a favourite movie, which one would it be?

Yes! The Terminal (played well by Tom Hanks), the plot was so strong.

How about a book? Which one would you choose?

Hey, I read Roald Dahl mostly and also JK Rowling. It might seems kiddish but I like reading “Matilda”.

What do you think about psychology and the way it can help people?

Psychology is a great subject as well as implied Human behavioural science. At times, I feel this is a tool to fix malfunctioning Human behaviour as humans are unpredictable creatures. If you have a subject grip, you can help other human beings choose a better life perspective: minimize stress, anxiety and behavioural issues.

What is your favourite food?

I love Arabic and Italian cuisines.

What is your favourite social media platform?

I am not too fond of it, but yes, I use Facebook, Pinterest & Instagram.

Do you like hot or cold weather, and why?

Cold rather, I sweat less..hehe

What is your idea of a perfect day?

The day I complete my tasks, no carry forwards.

Finally, if you could change something in the past, what it would be?

I would undo the day I lost my father for a long due hug!

My Nominations (so excited!):

Finally, towards my questions:

  1. What do you think about life?
  2. When did you start writing, and why?
  3. Do you believe in dreams? Are they real?
  4. Did you change? If yes, why?
  5. If you become a president of an under-developed country, What changes will you do on priority?
  6. Who is your true love?
  7. What is your approach to being helping hand?
  8. How do you deal with happiness and sadness?
  9. Do you love coffee or tea? And why?
  10. How is socializing to you? Do you enjoy?
  11. Lastly, What is your best memory in life?

Whee, I did it! Thank you so much for reading this post, and I hope you enjoyed reading my answers. I am super excited for the nomination, fingers crossed!

Stay Blessed All.

Blogger: Zakia

HUSBAND-WIFE RELATIONSHIP

The relation of a husband and wife is the basis of a family, and therefore it must be strongest. However usually, we take it for granted; this is where problems arise. We don’t work on our relation much, which affects our kids also and to top it up, we don’t even realize it.

Spouses usually have in their minds that we have to do everything for our kids and ignore each other most of the time just for kids’ sake. They don’t realize that due to this ignorance, their bond gets weaken as time passes. Distance begins to grow more and more, resulting in misunderstandings, quarrels, mistrust due to which home atmosphere becomes thick. Eventually, kids get poorly affected by it for whom they were doing everything. They don’t realize that kids need a peaceful house, loving and understanding parents who love and understand each other. The rest are secondary, but in most cases, spouses prioritize secondary things and ignore the basics, which give destructive results in the long run.

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If I specifically talk about our Asian culture, people don’t work on their relationships and rush towards giving birth right after marriage. The minor and neglectable problems before the baby become significant and damaging after the baby’s birth. As after birth responsibilities increase and spouses get busy with babies, new issues and difficulties arise side-by-side. When the partners haven’t solved and worked on previous ones, the later ones only add fuel. The relation starts to burn gradually. After some time, they may stay together while keeping hatred in their hearts for each other, which will eventually be visibly seen in their actions or separate their ways. Either way, it affects the kids badly. We can’t avoid problems and difficulties; they are part and parcel of life; we solve them and manage them while living our lives to the fullest.

After marriage, spouses should always take some time and invest in the relationship, be it one, two, three or five years, no matter how long it takes. As every relation moves at its own pace, depends on the understanding of partners, always take some time before moving on to the next step, reproduction. This way, when new problems and difficulties arise after birth, both partners will understand each other and their issues well and eventually solve them together, strengthening their bond more. They will provide a loving atmosphere for their kids, which will pull off a strong, caring and understanding family in the long run.

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I understand that it is easy to talk about than to implement, as, in Asian culture, there are too many societal and family pressures and influences in a couple’s life. Still, we all have to fight it together with our spouses and stay firm on our stance without considering anyone because it’s our life, and we should be the ones to take its decisions.

In my next post, I will write about how a couple can grow their bond strong and understand each other as in the beginning; it’s challenging to pull off the relationship, so a few points in mind will always help. Meanwhile, I would love to know what difficulties you all faced at the beginning of your relationship, and it may help many of us.

Blogger Attia

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